20 years ago, I graduated from law school thinking I was going to spend my career buried in contracts because I wasn’t a moot court rock star. Honestly, I was OK with that because public speaking terrified me as an island gal with a tendency to speak too fast.
Who knew back in 2006 that public speaking and building community through sharing content via social, podcasts, speaking engagements would be a core part of my job? I didn’t. Yet here we are 20 years later.
Here's what two decades in law taught me:
⭐️ Your reputation is your most valuable professional asset - Law school pits you against your classmates with grading curves. The real world is the opposite. The attorney you steamroll today could be a future client or colleague. The legal community is small and it has a long memory. Advocacy doesn't require being a jerk. Play the long game. Some of my best relationships have been with folks who sat across the negotiating table with me (who became early clients of Lexion) and folks who worked at competing companies (
Mary O'Carroll was at Ironclad while I was at Lexion and is on the board of
Paragon Legal (where I’m an advisor) and is an advisor to
Sandstone (where I’m the CLO).
⭐️ Networking is just making friends - Be genuinely curious about others and how you can help them. Some of my most meaningful professional relationships were built off of no agenda. Opportunities came later. My first GC gig was a referral from a startup CEO who I met at a wedding 10 years before that role opened up. My strategic advisory role at Paragon came about after discussing growth strategy with
Jessica Markowitz and being connected on LinkedIn for years. My role at Sandstone was a referral from a former sales lead for a product that competed with Lexion but we always knew we wanted to work together someday (and that someday came - hey
Oliver Pour).
20 years later, the lesson is simple: Relationships are what matter. Not the law school I attended. Not firm prestige.
Every opportunity I've had — every pivot, every referral, every leap — traces back to a person who showed up for me because I showed up for them (or they were kind enough to lift me selflessly even when I had nothing to give to them). Showing up sometimes means just being kind.
For my legal peers out there, what lessons would you share to legal professionals early in their career? Drop them in a comment. ⬇️
Here's to 20 years and to the community that made them count. 🥂
📷 Pic of me at law school graduation carrying my now 25-year old nephew (who I can no longer carry).