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There is no cute way of saying this. Running a business while grieving sucks.
Something I’ve noticed in other content people share, and the content I often share myself, is that we don’t share the hard thing while it’s happening. We share it after the fact when we can add some sort of reflection to the mix.
I’ve done that plenty. Heck, I just did that with my last post about finding our way to more stability this year. I wasn’t talking about our instability challenges last year as we were living through it. That would have been brutal.
But there is something extra jarring about running a small business while actively grieving.
Within the last month, my best friend of 10+ years lost her mom and my father-in-law died. Both losses were unexpected and fast. Both were people I loved. And both losses have deeply impacted the two closest people in my life.
Surreal is the only word that has felt right when it comes to how life has felt these past few weeks. And adding to the surrealness? I still have a business to run.
Because while our current clients are unsurprisingly, wonderfully understanding, I need to ensure that we’re getting in front of new clients for May, June, July.
Anyone who runs a small business, especially a service business, knows that to shut down marketing and sales for a month is often impossible. As an agency just beginning to stabilize, the idea of stopping all momentum is more than terrifying. It’s just not a real option.
So instead, I cry in between calls. I have an away message on my email telling folks I may be delayed in my response due to a family emergency. I’m not sure how long I’ll leave it but my gut says at least another week. I’m helping to plan a funeral in between strategy sessions. I’m trying to move my body daily, even if it's just a morning walk, but more preferred is an actual workout session. I’m writing this blog post instead of the ‘Why it’s not about going viral’ that was scheduled for this week because how in the world am I supposed to focus on that? I’m compartmentalizing on level 10,000.
Running a business while grieving sucks.
So my vulnerable, terrible ask of you is to keep TLC on the top of your mind when needs arise. And in exchange, I’ll give you some advice I’ve learned this month in supporting loved ones and colleagues going through their own loss.
Always reach out. Your message can be simple. My favorites have just been some version of “I love you. I’m so sorry. I’m thinking of you.” Because love and grief are two sides of the same coin; you can’t fix the loss but you can carry it with them.